Letting Go: Judgement

I’m grateful for patience, which is another way of saying letting go of expectations. I’m grateful to be making progress on the rock garden. I’m thrilled that at least one of the phoebes is back nesting again. I’m grateful for “plants and birds and rocks and things…”

I’m grateful I’m learning to let go of judgement. I’ve missed out on so much during my life, from judging. At the same time, I’ve made so many mistakes by not discerning: not trusting my inner wisdom, not living in accordance with my strongest values. It’s been a challenging balancing act, simultaneously judging harshly and failing to discern; but like a funambulist I’m grateful I’ve found some stability.

Judgment is inherently hierarchical: it creates a caste system. A bunch of individuals with similar judgements about something, anything, find each other (especially in this global social media whirl), and coalesce inevitably into a self-proclaimed upper caste, judging all others beneath them. I was born into hierarchy, but my true nature has always seen all beings as equal. For this, in my family, I was scorned. Oh well!

I’m grateful for every experience in my life that has brought me consequences from judging, and every situation that has fostered empathy and compassion. I allow myself to be a learner, still learning life’s lessons.

2 thoughts on “Letting Go: Judgement

  1. I find my inner dialogue is filled with judgments mostly of myself but of others too. Sometimes they are positive judgements such as, “what a nice voice she has” or “I did that pretty well!” But mostly they are derogatory. It seems the more I judge others harshly the more I do the same to myself. I’ve been working on getting out of this habit for years but I slid back into it over the past 4 years. So I’m climbing out of that hole again. ❤️

    • This has been my experience too. The only thing that finally helped me begin to climb out of that hole was working on judging myself less first, and THAT led to judging others less. It didn’t work for me the other way around.


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